When I had my daughter 8 years ago I didn’t think about how life will change so much, we adapt, we change, we move. Apart from some things that we took for granted before may now feel like a treat. For example a bath without a child knocking on the door, a wee without an audience….There are so many more to add but today I want to talk about implementing some self care.

I started this blog as a way to track my own self care journey. Self care for me isn’t just about a long bath or some make up it’s about my mental and physical health, it’s about learning to breathe and not be drawn back into anxiety.

I signed up to a life coaching/nutritional group and that helps me focus on me. It gave me a start but I wanted to delve deeper too. I took a life coaching course which helped me track my changes and successes, then signed up to the next step. It made me think about how I could help others and it gave me a purpose too. My first step for self care was to step away from so many hours procrastinating and over producing for my clients and learn how to plan efficiently so I would always have a daily hour for me.

So what do I do in this hour? Well that changes depending on how I feel but I was surprised that with a little bit of organisation I could fit that amount of time in when I didn’t feel like I could take 5 minutes for me before!

I organise – on a Sunday I organise my plan for the following week. This includes client work, blog work and gradually a meal plan too. By being more organised in other parts of my life it gave me time to breathe and relax.

I step away – it can be so easy to get drawn into social media and scrolling. I still find it difficult to step away (especially as my business is working around the children in half term) but it is a work in progress. I know if I spend too much time blankly scrolling then I miss out on other stuff.

I learn – I started with a life coaching course and have now signed up to an NLP course for life coaches, writing your happiness story course and a mindfulness practitioner course. I tend to grab them when they have special offers on but for me knowing I have the next course lined up in an area I enjoy keeps me focussed on the end result – being a life coach and counsellor to new mums that specialises in birth trauma.

I read – reading and imagination is an essential part of living. I used to read a book a day and that slipped drastically since having kids. Making sure I use 15-30 minutes at least to read everyday really is good for the soul. It sets a great example to the kids too!

I breathe – I put music on, sit and listen. Music and dance is a huge stress relief and one thing you can share with the kids too. Yoga is also a great opportunity to place self care into not only your own space but the kids space too. My boys have both had yoga class at nursery and I think starting this with them now can only be a good thing for their own mental health as they grow up.

So could you fit any of these things into your daily life to make you feel better?

So I suppose this is me starting this blog over. I hope that you stay with me on the journey. You can find me using the #selfcarewithkids and #dailylifeedit tags over on Instagram for daily updates.

I have been trying to look after my skin a lot more recently and so have been looking at products that can help me hydrate my dry skin but also protect to from the elements. Skintifique sent me their anti pollution set and I could  not wait to see how it faired during warmer weather than the cold too.

The cleansing water is great, it removes dirt and excess oil without drying out my skin. I have been using it for a month and have noticed clearer skin and a brighter tone to my pale features too.

The bottle is half full now and I have been using it for just over a month.

I barely moisturised before Skintifique came through the door. I hate how heavy they can feel on my skin but this was thick yet quite light when applied. I have seen a huge difference in my dry skin, particularly my forehead. There is quite a lot in the bottle as one pump actually does my face and hands.

I really rate this brand and loved their ethics when they contacted me. I will definitely be continuing my support of them once this set is finished because it has made a real difference to my skin.

As a mama to three children, making us a family of 5, holidays seem to be aa distant luxury. I have been told it can be done so here are a few tips I have gleamed from others in the know that will hopefully make me feel more confident about travelling together.

Research!

Check out reviews for airlines to resorts. Make sure you know where you and your family will feel welcome and have all you need on hand. Kids clubs to babysitters, spa for Mama – make sure you have a check list of individual as well as group needs.

Websites like TotsToTravel cater for families and so will make you feel more at ease on getting the right kind of holiday for you. Whether it’s in the balerics

Create a holiday bag for each child.


This could have a new camera (think polaroid)  for each child and a scrapbook so they can document their holiday on the go. Have a daily prize for the most unusual shell, the best photo etc and make it into a daily project for each to relieve any boredom! It also means you will have a book full of memories to look back on!

Also pack snacks, favourite toys and of course you may want a tablet computer/headphones loaded with books and films for moments where they can’t run around and be their most energetic self!

Engage with them throughout 

From the booking process to the main event make sure they know all about where you are going. This is a good time to make sure they know full names and telephone numbers. Discuss stranger danger and find suitable items like a buddy band where you can write your information. We know you’ll have eyes like a hawk on them but it is best to be prepared.

Don’t let them pack their own bags!

Surely you have had that experience before?

This year I have spent a lot of time on my own self care. It can be so difficult as a mum to think about ourselves and making sure we are well with physically and mentally. I have tried a lot of organisers, products, short and long term solutions. I have found systems that work for me and I thought that coming up to Christmas it was a great opportunity to discuss a few products that are perfect gifts for those that need to think about themselves more and find their own ‘me’ time.

These products are all committed to your self care so why not open your mind to me time ready for 2018!

Reading: The SuperMum Myth

This book is fab at starting to unravel why, as mums, we often feel guilty. This book supports you through your mama journey with mindfulness tips and CBT techniques that I have found quite helpful. This is an ideal gift for a new mum and should be high up there on the first step of feeling like you are completely unique and normal too!

Organising: The Law of Attraction Planner

 

I often use a bullet journal or similar to plan out my day and time but this is the perfect planner for me. It isn’t cheap at £27 BUT it has all the aspects of a bullet journal, mindful planner and much more. I love using it and actually feel less anxiety and stress when I am using it properly. I am also saving time and that means I get to do things for me without feeling any guilt.

 

 

 

Skincare: INFINatura Cura Oil

I dont know about you but I feel good if my skin looks good too. I have been using INFINatura Cura Oil on both my face and hair to give myself a healthy beauty boost! I love that it smell isnt overpowering and it makes my face and hair feel like they’ve had a boost of goodness with our greasy residue after. I will say Gav is even using it too! It is great to hydrate our skin after a bashing from winter winds!

INFINatura Cura Oil has a unique blend of eight 100% natural oils, including Camellia, Argan, Red Mandarin, Bergamot, Sunflower, Crambe Abyssinica, Geranium and Vitamin E. INFINatura Cura Oil contains Squalene from natural plant oils, which helps to rejuvenate and plump the skin. Squalene is also known

Relaxation: Olverum Bath Oil

If you are looking to embrace a luxury spa feel at home then you can’t go wrong with buying Olverum. This is literally heaven in a bottle. The smell is divine and you don’t need to lavish loads in your bath so it will last quite a while. This is a firm favourite of mine already and gives me such a sense of calm during a long soak.

Sex: The Little Dipper

I have found that as a mum we talk about sex less. I mean it is obvious that we do it – we have made the kids!) But postnatally we seem to push sex to the side and it is a fantastic stress relief too! This little kit is a perfect private stocking filler and I’ll be honest if I got this in my stocking I would be thrilled! I haven’t lost my sensual self since becoming a mum and it can take a while to reclaim that area of your life. Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner and even if you have to book in a night a week just getting your sex life back can feel like an amazing thing. Just because you are a mum doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself too! I am going to talk more about life after becoming mum in the new year over on DailyLifeEdit.com.

Celebrate: Shorn Sparkling

At the end of the week I toast myself to say ‘Yes, I got through it!’ Hopefully with a few changes I will still be celebrating my success’ and with a bottle of Fizz on a friday!

So can you commit to self care in 2018 too?